All of us have undoubtedly been either in such a long-distance relationship before, and/or have heard of how friends in similar circumstances would’ve panned out. Most stories though are unfortunate ones. Whether one or both parties strayed and cheated on each other or the passion had simply faded, it’s a scenario where the success rate is immensely low.

We spend a lot of time troubleshooting relationship issues, in a bid to salvage situations. Yet, not enough time is dedicated to talking about when we should let go.

Before we go into the signs of an imminent end to your relationship, please note that this article is in no way endorsing nor encouraging break-ups. That said, if you do find yourself confused about whether you’re in a place where the partnership is no longer right for you, it is the hope that you manage to find answers within this article.

Are both parties communicating enough?

One of the greatest indicators of a thriving relationship is communication, not just in volume, but also in the quality of conversations.

Communication becomes way more important when it comes to bridging the gap remotely, and video calls are highly encouraged where the face-to-face element is missing.

If you’re currently deliberating:

Ask yourself, do you still enjoy talking to the person? Is he/she your best friend, and someone you run anything by, and vice versa? Or have you both drifted, and is this relationship now running on autopilot?

Do make sure time and emotional investment go both ways. The last thing you want to be is someone in a one-sided relationship.

Are you actively making plans to meet up?

Partners engaged in long-distance usually travel back and forth a fair bit just to meet up and spend time. Nothing beats connecting with the person in real-time, where the physical touch element is also present.

If you’re currently deliberating:

Ask yourself, have both of you set plans to travel to meet up, or has that been shelved for a while now? Is your lover or yourself showing reluctance in meeting up, or could it be that one party’s work schedule doesn’t allow it?

Whatever the case, it is advisable to speak openly with the person you’re dating about this, and decide together whether the preferred way is to make an effort to fix things, or call it a day.

Are your emotional needs being met?

The couples who tend to flourish in a setting where both parties are apart more than they are together are people who value words of affirmation more predominantly, and probably gifts. These are the two love languages that can still be met even if your companion is away.

The people who value physical touch and quality time though will likely suffer the most with distance, and such an arrangement might not be the most suitable.

If you’re currently deliberating:

Ask yourself, do you feel loved and cherished by the person you’re with? Or has the distance torn the fabric of the relationship so much that both of you are constantly fighting about anything?

If fights are a constant and have been for a period of time now, it’s a good indicator to step back, go within and align with yourself once again on what you want, and whether this person fits the current bill.

Is there an end goal in mind?

You need to talk about life goals early on, especially if you’re looking for something serious. Don’t be vague about this either – Set a clear timeline, if marriage is on the cards. Both parties will have to honor that timeline unless something big crops up, of which a discussion of a shift in the timeline can take place.

If you’re currently deliberating:

In the event differences are starting to surface with regards to whether both of you are aligned on kids, parenthood, location of your future home, who is going to move and make the ultimate sacrifice, etc, do discuss with your girlfriend/ boyfriend whether this works long-term, or whether it’s easier to set each other free. 

If the questions above have allowed you to see that you do still have a fabulous thing going, and you should perhaps openly chat with your other half on how to deepen the connection, that’s fabulous news. You can consider some relationship-building activities for couples.

However, if the prompters have shed light on cracks within the relationship suggesting it has run its course, and you’ve avoided reality for a while now, perhaps this will help – If we have the courage to be vulnerable enough to fall in love, we have the courage to leave. Unearth that inner strength, and rely on that to get you through an honest conversation with your partner to hopefully part ways on an amicable note.

While it can feel incredibly scary and uncertain to face the world as a single again, especially if you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, know this: If we do not learn to let go of things that no longer serve our highest good, better things cannot fall into place.

The moment every proud dad waits for the second he hears his little girl’s getting married – The infamous father-daughter dance.

While the origin of this tradition is shrouded in mystery, it has roots in American history and remains a popular feature at weddings today.

If your father isn’t in the picture for whatever reason, whether it’s that he has passed, or not in your life, or that he just has two left feet and declined to make a fool of himself in public, here are a few great ideas as a replacement.

A Dance Performance

When you get invited to an Indian couple’s wedding, you’d expect bold, flamboyant colors, vibrant dances, and a boisterous atmosphere. How about taking a leaf from the beautiful culture and choreographing a dance performance with you and your bridesmaids and/or groomsmen?

Dedicate a Song to your father

A song dedication is such a lovely, touching way to remember someone pertinent to you and your life. It doesn’t matter whether the person’s physically present or not, so long as he lives in your heart.

Honor both parents

Another way to honor both your mother and father for their years of upbringing, care, and love is to give them the dance floor and play their wedding song instead.

Photo Slideshow

A photo slideshow is rather popular in Chinese culture, along with a tea ceremony. You can always opt to treat your friends and family to a few minutes of marveling at how adorable you and your spouse looked when you guys were younger, and how your paths eventually crossed.

Dance with an Important person

Who is the most important person in your life – The person who raised you, or someone you’re closest to whom you’d like to pay tribute to? It can be the single mum who raised you, your big brother who always protected you, or even your father-in-law who has treated you like his own from the second you met.

The dance doesn’t even have to be a slow, romantic dance either, especially when it’s with someone of the same gender. Feel free to turn this event into an entertaining crowd dance, and invite your attendees to join!

Play to your strengths

Good music is always synonymous with excellent parties. If you love singing or are a musician, this works perfectly too – Treating your loved ones to a night of partying is perfect to celebrate the new journey you and your spouse are going to embark on!

Trivia Game

A game is the quickest way to get even strangers at a table to get to know each other and break the ice between everyone at your wedding. It’ll be a hit, with laughter reverberating around the room.

Infuse Cultural Elements

If you and your fiancé are coming from different cultural backgrounds, it’s the perfect time to incorporate an interesting element from each culture.

• For example, in the Chinese tradition, the groom and his boys are put through a series of tests and challenges called the ‘wedding door games for him to be proven worthy of the bride. The bridesmaids would typically also be expected to be paid off to allow the groom entry into the house to pick the bride up.
• A cultural custom similar to this is in Romania, where the guests would playfully kidnap the bride before the wedding. They’d hide her in a clandestine location and demand a ransom from the groom. A few bottles of alcohol would typically do it.
• In the Philippines, the bride and groom will release a pair of white doves – one male, and one female, after tying the knot. The birds are meant to represent a harmonious life together.
• In Cuba, the custom is that every man who dances with the bride must pin money to her dress to help the couple pay for their wedding and honeymoon.

Cater something for the Singles

It’s tough showing up for a wedding as a single. While the most common tradition globally is where the bride would throw her bouquet behind, and it is believed that whoever catches it will be the next to marry, there’re plenty of other ways to help singles at your party feel more welcomed too.

A traditional Peruvian wedding cake has ribbons hanging out around the sides. Each ribbon is attached to a charm inside the cake, and only one ribbon is attached to a replica ring. It is believed that whoever gets served that ring is next in line to get wed.

Skip It

If none of the ideas above appeal to you and your partner, there’s no need to stress yourself out unnecessarily either. Skip the father-daughter dance, if you prefer to.

Ultimately, your wedding is yours, and yours alone. It’s going to be a cherished memory of your lifetime. The event should be a time of fun and celebrations to usher in a new beginning. While coordinating logistics can be tiring, do your best to still find joy in every moment. You can also read our post on relationship-building activities for couples or  best wedding chapels in Las Vegas

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Ever got into a fight, and your cortisol shoots right through the roof, and all you can feel is your heart racing, your palm sweating, and you feel helpless? 

Confrontations have a way of escalating the situation and create communication breakdowns in future conflicts. Confrontation can also lead to aggressive actions or avoiding of difficult conversation if both side do not wish to face the issue head on.

Amygdala hijack – That’s what it’s called. That’s when your brain reacts to psychological stressors as if there is physical danger.

With your fight-or-flight response and that possibly wouldn’t result in the most loving nor constructive conversations. We also included methods by which you can either help yourself or help your partner get back to baseline.

Confrontation Leads to Escalation of Situation

An uncontrolled confrontation approach leads to an escalation situation where you feel fear, tension, and anger. Those emotions do not allow the most rational decisions, causing relationship conflict.

In a heated situation like that, even asking to pause might trigger the other party. Nevertheless, a pause might help you be at your best, to support one another.  An agreement had to before future conflicts allow a timeout when a phrase is utter (e.g. timeout, one moment please) by any party, and the pause is nothing personal. You can choose to set a break time that is acceptable to both before going to your individual safe spaces to calm down, i.e., 15 minutes, 1 hour.

Confrontation Leads to Unclear Communication

When there are unresolved conflict, the result can be communication breakdowns that hamper progress and even lead to further conflict. In order for confrontation to produce clear communication, both parties must be willing and able openly share their thoughts with each other.

Offer clear communication with boundaries by saying something along the lines of: 

• This is important to me, and I would like to talk about it. At the moment though, we seem too emotional, and I would like to pause.

• Can we hit pause? We are deviating far from our true selves, and I wish to be in a state where I can be kind and loving. 
• Let’s pause so that we can return to a state where we’re both calm, and then we can talk. 

Confrontations Lead To Aggressive Actions

Confrontation can bring aggressive action like raising of voices or abusive language due to an increased tension. Regulating your breath is one of the most effective ways to bring your heart rate back down to normal. Practice conscious rhythmic breathing using the 4-7-8 breathing technique is great for regulating anxiety. 

Place one hand on your belly, the other on your chest, take in deep breaths in for 4 seconds, hold the breath for 7 seconds, and exhale for 8 seconds. Do this for as long as you feel is necessary. There is no set rule on timing.  An conflict between a confrontation person and a conflict avoidant person usually end up with the conflict avoidant disengaging completely to prevent unnecessary conflicts. Without psychological safety, an unhealthy relationship develops without honest communication or a conflict resolution strategy.  

Therefore, check-in with your partner after both of you had time to cool down with a simple “How can I help you?”. Everyone has different love languages and different conflict resolution styles.

Some people value a hug, and need that to feel better, and supported. Others might want to talk and resolve the issue.

Perhaps ask, “Is this a good time to speak with you on that issue?” to gauge whether they’re in the right mental space to resolve the issue or not. If not, then ask when would be a good or acceptable time to do so.

Below are a list of items to handle conflicts, even with confrontations-

Always eat prior

Hangry is a real thing. In the absence of food, your blood sugar might get too low, which then triggers cortisol (stress hormone) and adrenaline (fight-or-flight hormone) fires. That is not a situation we want.

So, to allow you and your partner the best chance of a peaceful resolution, do ensure both have eaten, and both have had a relatively stress-free time prior, before re-opening the chat.

Hug for at least 2 minutes

This might sound ridiculous to some of you, but physical touch is an important component in relationships, especially for those whose love language is Physical Touch. 

Hugging each other for at least 2 minutes can help you and your partner feel connected again, and prep yourselves to enter a space where loving communication and peaceful resolution can take place. 

Keep language neutral

When resolving a conflict, be sure to keep your language as kosher as possible. This means avoiding making accusations and making things personal. Instead, talk about the issue, and if you wish, share your feelings. 

For example, “I have been feeling neglected lately. Do you think we can spend Friday night together, and let’s plan a movie night?”

What not to say in this scenario: “You haven’t been home and you don’t love me at all. This is just terrible, and I’m sick of this.” 

Play up the things you love 

One great way to diffuse tension is to focus on and highlight the positives, more than the negatives, to set the tone of the conversation.

For example, “I love spending time with you, and every time we do, it makes me happy. Shall we schedule a date night on Friday?”

Understanding Love Languages

If you know your partner’s love language, this would give you a great edge when tense scenarios arrive. If your partner loves physical touch, hold the person’s hand whilst resolving the conflict. If words of affirmation matter to your partner, praise him/her for something positive. Lift one another. If acts of service are your partner’s language, even taking them their favorite beverage before the chat begins can always help you earn some brownie points!

Any relationship requires hard work, but it is not impossible to build a successful relationship. It is the hope that this arsenal of tools has helped you inch closer to a happy marriage! 

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Deborah Choo loves discussing relationships, platonic or not, as that remains at the heart of human existence. She draws upon learnings from couples’ counselling, and continues to celebrate an incredible journey of growth.

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When you feel hopeless, and on the verge of a divorce, then these ways or tips can help you to save your marriage.

You might get annoyed, bored, frustrated, and too many other reasons that force the couple that they can’t live together anymore.

In any married life, there came a time when you think about how to save your marriage when you feel hopeless. Still, if you want to save your relationship, it’s never too late. You can put your relationship back on track if you want to do so. 

Some Helpful Tips for How to Save Your Marriage When You Feel Hopeless

As I said earlier, if you both have intentions to save a relationship, then you can do it. Follow the below-given tips to save your marriage when you are hopeless. 

• Make a List of All the Issues You Feel Hopeless About.

Anger can be involved in any relationship, but it never means to give up that relation. Similarly, hopelessness should never mean a divorce. Anger and hopelessness are indicators that there is a problem. So, try to find out the reasons why you feel hopeless and write down all the issues that are stopping you from saving this beautiful relation.  

• Remember Your ‘Why’

The first thing is to try to understand why you want to save your marriage? Do you have any solid reasons or you just want to decide on assumptions? Are you feeling any sense of shame, guilt, or obligation? So, try to understand the reasons, because these reasons will help you to make changes in your married life. 

• Develop Empathy For Your Spouse

Get to know your spouse in detail. Spend some time and see what makes them feel bad? What things irritate them? Try to find out the cause of stress and scare? Learn those helpful tips to bring a smile on your spouse’s face. When you develop deep empathy, you can live a golden married life. Take that initiative and wait because it will come back to you.

• Be Compassionate 

You can’t always agree with your spouse, but choose ways that are kind, caring, sensitive, affectionate, and appreciative. This kind of attitude can help you to win the hearts of any relationship. 

• Listen With Intention to Learn

Listen to learn not with the intention to react. You will have to be positive for active listening. Never wait for your turn to speak. Just pay attention to all the useful information. Carefully observe the body language of your own and your spouse. Look for opportunities where you can add validation and comfort. In any communication, there can’t be anything more powerful than being deeply and truly heard. 

• Step Away From the Problems.

When you feel alone and hopeless, it brings negative emotions in your life, and you start to feel it’s the end of the world. See things from different perspectives. You and your spouse might have unlimited faults by trying to find at least one positive quality. Just imagine your feelings when you were dating for the first time. Bring that energy back into your marriage. Start finding positives in your marriage. When you start moving away from problems, you will start to see life from a different angle. 

• Eliminate the Root Causes

How to save your marriage when you feel hopeless? You can bring happiness to your married life by finding the root causes. Both of you should be agreed on to eliminate addictions, affairs, and aggression from your relationship. You can’t go along and move forward in a relationship if you are facing these issues. So, get rid of all these to bring happiness in your relationship. 

• Learn Skills to Have a Happy Marriage

When you want to recommit to each other, and you think there is no way you can do this, then learn skills. One thing is for sure; it’s never too late to start your relationship again. Leaning skills means learn how to communicate effectively, how to show love and affection, and how to recommit to your new marriage. 

• Stop the Cycle of Arguments

The worst thing we do in our married life is never giving up arguing. No one is interested in ending a fight. We continue to keep arguing and blasting others. After doing all this, we feel there is no hope to save our relationship. There is always a hop if you can leave such an attitude. Stop the exchange of negative words. Start respecting each other. Nip the verbal aggression at the bud. When one person starts practicing this, others will automatically give up. So, you can get back to a happy life by doing this. 

• Increase Positive Energy to Share with Your Partner 

Positive energy means, smile more, have more fun, sex more, and be appreciative. Try to find out things you like about each other. Start praising each other and agree more. More importantly, all these things are free. The more positive energy you will give, the more positive response you will get. So, bring positive energy into your relationship and get things back on track. 

• Prioritize Your Marriage

Marriage isn’t an easy thing. Put negative things behind and always committed to staying by the side of your spouse. Find a safe place to be vulnerable and transparent. If you are unable to develop communication, seek the help of counseling. Put your marriage above everything else. 

Conclusion

How to save your marriage when you feel hopeless? After some specific period, people start to ask this question. Couples are the culprit for taking their relationship to this stage. However, there is always a chance to get things back on track.

Follow the above-given tips and get your marriage back on track. Get rid of negative things and find out positives in each other. It will help you to save your marriage and bring back some hope. One thing is for sure, in marriage, it’s never too late to get things back on track. 

Many marital responsibilities and the addition of kids into family take away lots of things from married life.

Romance is also one of those things that couples forget after marriage.

According to research, romance and love are very important for marital relationships.

When couples lack sex and romance, they are found to be less relaxed and satisfied.

Romance after marriage plays a crucial role in maintaining a healthy relationship. A couple might be struggling to keep the romance alive after having responsibilities and kids, but you can manage and make your marriage more romantic.

In this article, we will discuss how to romance after marriage. 

Some Best Ideas for Romance after Marriage

If you are committed, it is not the assurance of a happy marriage. You will have to show love in different ways. Let’s have a look at some of the sweet romance ideas for busy couples. 

• You can leave a surprise romantic message on any social media platform. 
• A surprise birthday party, either alone or with your spouse’s friends.
• You can plan an evening coffee in any calm place.
• A sweet kiss on the face while leaving for work.  
• Deliver a bouquet to your spouse in the office. 
• Send a sexy message to attract your spouse for sex and romance. 
• Make his favorite dish. 
• Plan a date at least once a month. 
• Wear perfumes and jewelry to attract his attention. 
• Praise your spouse in front of the kids and friends. 
• Greet and meet him at the door. 

Tips to Maintain Romance after Marriage 

You can make your married life romantic by just being proactive. Romance after marriage can change the whole complexion of a relationship. 

• Prioritize your spouse

Remember, every idea related to romance revolves around your spouse, so give your spouse the priority. When couples start to give importance to work and kids, they forget to rekindle the romance. Nowadays, the thinking of couples has been changed. They think when you are on the bed and share good moments, it is enough, but it is not true. 

Women love romance more than sex and she wants emotional attachment. So, romance after marriage is important for the well-being of the relationship. For a wife, it is important to show that passion that attracts her husband for the first time when they met. In this way, she can easily attract him for sex. Romance is a two-way activity, and the consent of both partners is mandatory. Otherwise, you wouldn’t enjoy it.  

• Pay attention to your physical appearance. 

When people get married, they stop caring for their look and personality. They don’t put too much effort in to maintain their personality and physical appearance. There are two possibilities; one is your spouse might still love you in this rough look, and the other is he/she might not take more interest in you. The choice is yours. 

To attract your spouse for romance take some time to maintain your look. When you start caring for a look it can boost sexual attraction. It can be a gesture for your spouse that you care for her feeling. It can help you to maintain romance after marriage. 

• Express your love frequently.

When we are interested or engaged in each other, we express our love regularly, but we stop doing this after marriage. It is not a wise thing. Keep expressing and sharing your love after marriage consistently. Ask your spouse how he/she is feeling after getting married, kiss her, and do a gentle touch to express your love. 

Moreover, you can hold both hands to encourage closeness. When you do this, you attract each other for romance. You can try something old like writing a letter and place it in the wallet. Add some flowers in the room, and it can bring romance in your married life. 

• Set time for one another

It becomes mandatory after marriage. Set time for each other. Plan a late-night date where you can have a good time together. Moreover appreciate each other while talking. Wait for kids to sleep and spend time together and lay side by side. These little things can do magic. Try to understand the needs of your partner. Spend a holiday with your family. Try to focus on your partner. 

Stay with your wife while cooking, and a gentle touch on her waist can be an exciting moment. Schedule some time when both of you can spend time with each other without any interruptions. Surprise each other with different things. All these things can help you maintain romance after marriage. 

• Experiment with sex

Over time, sex becomes rare, and couples stop experimenting with new things. Romance is mandatory to maintain sex. To maintain romance after marriage requires little effort from both sides. Surprise your spouse with sex and start flirting. It can help you to bring romance to your relationship. When you are on a bed, feelings of both matters, it doesn’t mean you came to have sex and leave the bed or go to sleep. No, you will have to satisfy your partner. You can do it with romance and foreplay. To bring excitement while doing sex, try different positions. You can do it at different places in the house. 

Watch some intimate porn and ask your spouse in which position she feels better during sex. In sex, quality and quantity both matter, but try to focus on the quality of sex instead of quantity. Bring new ideas to sexual life. Keep trying different things, and don’t stick to one thing. 

Conclusion

Why do marriages fail after a few years? The most common reason is the lack of romance and sex. You can save your marriage and relationship by maintaining romance after marriage. You can try different things to attract your spouse for sex. Lots of sweet ideas we have shared in this article. More importantly, spend time together, understand the sexual needs of each other, frequently express your love, experiment with sex, and give your spouse the priority. By doing all this, you can maintain romance after marriage. 

Over the last few decades, family life in America has become less stable with divorce and family violence.

The majority of the American population agrees that marriage provides value to life. Marriage was once considered as the prerequisite of adulthood, but nowadays, younger people find it out-dated, purpose-less, and fearful of the drama from divorces.

Without any doubt, the concept of marriage is losing relevancy, but it isn’t completely faded yet. Marriage life is impacting the lives of people differently than in the past. So in this article, we will see, is marriage relevant in today’s times?

Why was marriage so important to society? 

Marriage was important to society in promoting the common good and moral requirement to have children. It encourages people to be socially responsible for their family and deters adultery or other acts deemed immoral then.

However, people have been questioning the purpose of marriage given that all the previous reasons are weakening and not relevant. Having a child before marriage, cheating even in marriage is widely seen around the world nowadays.

Views of People about Marriage Relevancy

Many people don’t want to marry because marriage will change their lifestyle. They will have to earn a good living, marrying children, building a career, and many other responsibilities. With time, marriage is losing relevancy in America and Europe. 

A survey was conducted in America, and many people agree that marriage benefits society and individuals. This survey was conducted to find out the issues in a relationship, cultural, and family issues. You can’t deny that marriage life in the USA has become weaker than the past. Now a few people get married and have children. On the other hand, a survey has also shown that the majority of people are still in favor of marriage. 

Survey results have shown that:

• According to 64% of respondents, marriage helps people to become better financially. 
• 59% of the respondents agreed that marriage helps to create strong families.
• According to 53% of people, society can be better when more people get married. 
• Only 14% of people said that marriage is a burden, and it doesn’t have benefits, and it is old-fashioned. 

However, these figures show a decline in good views of people about marriage. Is marriage relevant in today’s time? Yes, up to some extent, it is still relevant in today’s times. 

Despite the positive views of people about marriage, it wasn’t still ranked higher when we ask about what are the essentials in fulfilling life? The majority of the population agrees that among the essentials of a fulfilling life, it is crucial to make a good living, having a rewarding career job, and gaining a good education. People who are married said that their spouse and children are most important to them. 

In the past, marriage was considered to be the way for stability, but nowadays, people want to get stable before entering into married life. Now people want to get married when they feel they are financially secure.  When respondents were asked about getting married, is it more important than building a career? Only 19% agreed to this question, and 52% of people were against this. It means they know their career is more important than their marriage. 

When we ask about the extremely important prerequisite, marriage wasn’t at the top of the list. When we asked about the ideal relationship sequence, respondents indicate that childbearing would ideally take place in marriage. 

Attitude towards Marriage

People’s attitude towards marriage has changed over the last few years. Young people believe that being single is the perfect way to live an appropriate life. 

The number of marriages has been decreased drastically. Nowadays young people have a different goal that’s why they don’t want to give up by doing marriage. Young people are more careers oriented, and young girls like to be more independent. So, marriage is losing relevancy with the passage of time.  

How many marriages are sexless?

Nowadays, another common trend in marriage is a sexless marriage, meaning less than 10 sex intimacy in the last year.

It is mentioned in mainstream media like Ted Talk, books, and plenty of news articles and also Wikipedia.

Newsweek estimates that about 15 to 20 percent of couples are in one. Kinsey institute’s studies show that 10% or less of the married population below age 50 were sexless.

How does marriage benefit a man?

Given the above mindsets, people did research about the benefit of marriage to a man.

ScienceDaily found that there is a “marriage premium” for men that includes:

• Married men make about $16,000 more than their single peers with otherwise similar backgrounds. It also includes more assets and more job stability. 
• Better sex lives compared to both single and cohabiting men

What are the health benefits of marriage?

Havard also found that the health benefits of marriage include a married person:

• live longer.
• have fewer strokes and heart attacks.
• have a lower chance of becoming depressed.
• be less likely to have advanced cancer at the time of diagnosis and more likely to survive cancer for a longer period of time.
• survive a major operation more often.

Conclusion

Is marriage relevant in today’s times? In America, people still value the benefits of marriage and understand its benefits. While when we talk about other perquisites and needs, the desire for marriage has declined. Research has shown that Americans still love to marry or hope to marry. So, yes, marriage is still relevant in today’s times. 

Did Amber Heard date Elon Musk? Amber Heard and Elon Musk definitely dated but the period is hard to determine given the constant denials by both. While Johnny Depp and Amber’s family friend insisted they dated while she was still married, there are no evidences so far.

Timeline of Amber Heard and Elon Musk Dating

In 2013, Elon Musk nearly met Amber Heard while doing a cameo in Robert Rodriguez’s 2013 film Machete Kills, in which Heard had a role (as Miss San Antonio). Musk, 45, didn’t have a scene with Heard, 30, but apparently became infatuated anyway, according to a source close to the set, and began sending emails to Rodriguez and others — some made available to THR through a confidential source — asking him to set up a rendezvous.

In 2016, Amber Heard and Elon Musk were first linked together in London and Miami as both were weathering a public breakup:

• Musk filed for divorce from Westworld actress Talulah Riley in early 2015; and
• Heard and Johnny Depp finalized their divorce in January 2016.

The 30-year-old actress and 45-year-old tech titan are “both very serious about each other,” her father David Heard claimed, citing a report in the UK publication Grazia.

Claims were heard that Musk, Delevingne and Heard were in a secret three-way relationship in 2016. It was alleged that Heard’s affair with the SpaceX entrepeneur began before she split with Johnny Depp in May that year.

But Musk told Page Six that he and Delevingne were friends. 

“We’ve never been intimate. She would confirm this.

“Also, I wish to confirm again that Amber and I only started going out about a month after her divorce filing. I don’t think I was ever even in the vicinity of Amber during their marriage!”

Musk said that everyone involved in the lawsuit between Depp and Heard should “bury the hatchet and move on”.

The infamous kiss in Instagram on April 2017 cemented the rumors that they were dating. https://www.instagram.com/p/BTP1xBzFke5/?utm_source=ig_embed

In August 2017, they first broke up due to their busy schedules but rekindled their romance in January 2018 only to split for a second time a month later.

“Elon decided it was time to end it and Amber agreed,” a source close to the couple told PEOPLE at the time. “They both still care deeply for each other but the timing wasn’t right.”

Despite ending things in August, they were spotted out together in Australia just days after news of their split emerged.

“Well, she broke up with me more than I broke up with her, I think,” Musk told Rolling Stone in a story published three months later. “I was really in love, and it hurt bad.”

Why Did Elon Musk and Amber Heard Dated?

Both Elon Musk and Amber Heard have great things to say about each other, since Elon Musk knew about her since 2013.

Elon Musk was intrigued by Amber Heard in some statements:

“If there is a party or event with Amber, I’d be interested in meeting her just out of curiosity,” Musk wrote. “Allegedly, she is a fan of George Orwell and Ayn Rand … most unusual.”

Rodriguez and team did indeed set up a dinner, but Heard — who was dating Depp at the time — didn’t show, leading Musk to try again. “Can you send her a note saying I would like to get together for lunch in LA?” he emailed the Rodriguez team again. “Am not angling for a date. I know she’s in a long-term relationship, but … Amber just seems like an interesting person to meet.”

Meanwhile, Amber Heard also felt a beautiful relationship with Elon Musk:

“Elon and I had a beautiful relationship, and we have a beautiful friendship now, one that was based on our core values,” Heard says. Such as? “Intellectual curiosity, ideas and conversation, a shared love for science. We just bonded on a lot of things that speak to who I am on the inside. I have so much respect for him.”

Fake Rumors That Amber Heard’s Family Chose Johnny Depp Over Elon Musk

Heard’s family friend Jennifer Howell insisted in a court declaration that the Amber’s late mother, Paige, revealed her daughter’s paranoid secret early last year, according to DailyMail.com.

“Paige shared with me while I was visiting [Amber’s sister] Whitney that Elon Musk had gifted a Tesla or multiple Teslas (not sure if it was one or more), but Amber found out that they were ‘bugged,’” Howell said, according to the documents obtained by the Mail.

The late mom claimed that the 49-year-old Tesla founder — who was accused in court of seeing Heard while she was still married to Johnny Depp — was “controlling” during their affair, Howell reportedly.

In comparison, Depp, 57, was an “angel” or a “saint” to Heard — and the family wanted to see them reunited, Howell told Depp’s lawyers in a statement as part of his $50 million US lawsuit against his ex-wife.

However, Heard’s sister insisted that Howell’s claims were “complete fiction,” reps for the actress and her family told the Mail.

About 15 to 20 percent of the population are Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs). This group of people is likely to display an increased emotional sensitivity to internal and external stimuli. 

Can Two HSPs Date?

While two HSPs in a relationship are akin to signing up for an intense uphill battle, if two people madly in love are also willing to do the work to heal together, magic can happen. Let love and compassion guide the way, and always remember why you fell in love in the first place.

Increased sensitivity might have genetic roots, but of course, early childhood environments do undoubtedly play an enormous role in shaping these beautiful minds.  

HSPs feel things deeply, and that by itself is such a magnificent quality. If you’re an HSP, know that your high EQ and sharpened intuition have granted you no less than a superpower – This trait alone is great for negotiations under pressurizing conditions. What a gift. 

While these sensitive souls are more likely to be negatively impacted and reactive to anger, tension, violence, etc., they’re also delightful people who possess a higher capacity for empathy, and they pick up on people’s moods more quickly than others. HSPs also have a flair for creativity and tend to see beauty in the little things. 

HSPs are likely to experience varying degrees of anxiety, and could potentially be individuals who are also of an Anxious attachment style. If the latter is true, the challenge these individuals would face is to know how to distinguish between when intuition is speaking versus fear, because both voices might be loud and unrelenting at the moment. 

Extreme Possibilities of 2 HSPs Dating

Let’s not sugar coat this though – If two HSPs were to date, it would either be the most gentle and supportive relationship, or it would be an absolute disaster in the making.

Imagine these scenarios:

• A) You sense a swift change in the mood and atmosphere, and you immediately ask your partner if he/she is alright. Your partner then chooses to inform you kindly and calmly what the issue is, and both parties can quickly defuse the situation, or
• B) You sense a swift change in the mood and atmosphere, and you immediately ask your partner if he/she is alright. Instead of sharing what’s on his/her mind, your partner decides to launch an attack instead, or
• C) You sense a swift change in the mood and atmosphere, and you immediately get defensive and engage in protest behavior, whether it is to shut down in defiance and anger, or to lash out at your partner based on an assumption. In this case, if both do not possess either the skill set to de-escalate, are unwilling to, or simply cannot understand each other’s repair attempts, World War III is likely to take place.

Note that the difference in all three scenarios hinges on the maturity of both parties and how much work they’ve done before meeting one another to understand themselves and their communication patterns better, and to work with/her partner more effectively. 

While the strategies below will be helpful in any relationship, we do acknowledge that they are more important for HSPs to note for two HSPs to date.

Communication is Crucial When Two HSPs Date

Communication is vital for every couple, but even more so for two HSPs in love. They do need to learn how to work with themselves and others to communicate calmly and effectively that is hopefully void of provocation, for issues to be resolved peacefully. 

As much as possible, keep the language as simple as possible because HSPs can potentially zero in on yet another small thing in that precarious moment and the last thing you want to do is ignite another explosion. 

Learn to Circuit Break Yourself

We cannot always rely on our partners to understand us and therefore know how to circuit break for us. Especially with another HSP, he/she might be undergoing a great deal of internal turmoil too and has no additional bandwidth at the moment to help pull you up at the same time.

If both parties know how to pull themselves up though, that makes returning to baseline much easier.

To be able to do that, understanding self is step 1. Recognizing what an amygdala hijack feels like, and knowing how to communicate to step back when your fight-or-flight is engaged is the next step. 

While it’s not rocket science, emotions are also understandably not the easiest to control at that moment. Show yourself some compassion during moments like these, especially when you feel like you’re breaking down.

If you do need to ask for help, try saying something along the lines of: 

• “I feel overwhelmed. Can you help me?”
• “I just feel like crying now and I don’t seem to be able to help myself out of this hole now. Can you help pull me up, please?”

These statements do not attack the other, and the plea for help is clear.

Give the Benefit of Doubt Even When Doubtful

Stop short of sounding like a broken record – Giving your partner the benefit of doubt is extremely important. 

More so than others, you need to recognize that you both are more prone to misunderstanding each other when emotions are heightened, and worse so if both are argumentative people. 

Break the pattern by assuming the best of one another, and you just might watch the entire situation turn around quickly.

Forgiveness Is King

If you’re both floundering though, it’s okay too. Do understand emotions are amplified during a very tense moment. Recognize that you do not have a secure person between the two of you to anchor, so you need to put in double the effort now, and allow this relationship more grace than you’ve ever shown to anyone before.

Forgive, forgive, forgive. 

And never count score. 

Fate has allowed you to meet once. The rest is up to you.

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Watching TV and movies together is not a good way to build a relationship with each other. The digitalization of media had not helped us build a stronger relationship with each other.

This is the same as why the World Health Organisation doesn’t advise children below 2 to watch TV for more than 1 hour a day.

Our recommendation of activities to build a relationship between a couple is:

• Plan for the future together on plain paper
• Massage each other.
• Plan for a baby.
• Cook or bake together.
• Play some games together.
• Play quizzes or activities together.
• Do something out of the routine (e.g. have a walk together at the park).

There is no silver bullet to it. Both of you need to allocate time together first.

Below is a useful table of exercise from the best-seller of “No More Fighting” which we loved.

EXERCISE: Tell your partner three ways you would like to begin taking better care of yourself in the next week. Notice any fears or assumptions that get in the way of considering these self-care activities.

EXERCISE: The Speaker discusses what types of responses make them feel both validated /heard /seen and invalidate /unheard /unseen. The Listener validates the Speaker throughout this process, beginning their validation with the words, What you’re saying makes sense because…

EXERCISE: Stare into each other’s eyes for two minutes without turning away. It’s okay to giggle, laugh, cough, clear your throat, mutter, mumble, grow restless or shift your body around as long as you do your best to bring your attention back to each other’s eyes and to the moments of stillness between you.

Some items you can buy to kickstart your relationship building with each other.

The Big Activity Book For Couples Paperback

This activity book is a great way to get to know each other more.

Instead of boring movies, you can use this during date night

The couple’s book is worth the money if both of you love cute and fun activities.

This fun book can be used during a road trip or force both of you to spend time together.

This is not for serious couples who cannot appreciate the fun and little things.

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Me, You, Us: A Book to Fill Out Together

This is highly recommended book for couples to share memories and conversations together.

The book is much fun and a great book for activities to fill up even before marriage. There are prompts to assist both of you.
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No More Fighting: The Relationship Book for Couples: 20 Minutes a Week to a Stronger Relationship

Fighting is inevitable in any relationship.

This best-seller is a simple yet highly recommend book by Alicia Munoz useful for every couple. 

It provides stories of couples. At the end of each chapter, there are also helpful exercises to help the couple communicate during the fighting. The guide 

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The Quiz Book for Couples

This quiz book is a fun way and great idea to know each other. It is a fun time filling during car rides.

You can explore new things and a way to get to know new things and see how much you know each other.

It is a great bonding time and recommended for any couples.

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A Year of Us: A Couples Journal: One Question a Day to Spark Fun and Meaningful Conversations

Another book by Alicia Munoz that provide something to do daily. The questions in this book is a great way to know your partner better.

There are thought provoking questions and fun questions. You can write the answers while your partner is answering the questions.This acts a journal and conversation tool to build a connection with your partner.

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I Wrote a Book About You — A fun, fill-in-the-blank book.

This is a great gift for someone special, when you filled it up. It is super cute and unique gift that make you think about your partner.

Your partner will find it sweet and thoughtful when it arrived on their hand. Of course, men don’t show their joy usually but they will absolutely loved it 

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As a husband, I had to realize it is simple, yet complicated to comfort a sad wife.

What is the best way to comfort your sad wife? To comfort your sad wife, just ensure you are there physically and spiritually. Do not worry her with your “solution” for her problem as your wife just want someone to lean on and not think about her problems.

I will start with the don’ts and do’s of comforting a wife and what could happen if done wrongly based on my personal experiences.

I started with the don’ts as it is usually harder than the dos.

Don’ts of Comforting A Sad Wife

The main complexities come from stopping her from feeling that you are:-

• Judging her mistakes or situation

The first step is to withhold all judgment and keep it in your mind. Similar to how a counselor works, just let your wife speak and share her pain.

Even if she made a mistake, it was already over, and don’t use this time to teach her a life lesson. She is your wife to love and not to shame at her saddest moment.

• Compounding her pain making her remember the pain again

Another important step is to don’t provide any solution. It is very easy for an external person to provide solutions or suggestions to solve her problem.

Based on my experience, a woman doesn’t need solutions when she is sad. That is already too late!

The solution should have been there before she became sad. When she is sad, don’t remind her of the problem again and let her escape mentally or physically.

• Distancing from her due to your actions or inactions

One common mistake is ignoring your wife when she is sad. While you don’t want to judge or provide her suggestions, you should be somewhere she can rely on you.

She could lose her ability to take care of herself, binging unhealthy food, or watching Netflix. Nevertheless, you should be there when she can see or feel you. 

Walking away could give her a sense of distancing and signal the wrong things in her sad mind now. Be sensitive and be nearby.

Making her feel lonely is a terrible and frustrating feeling so make sure you don’t.

During this period, she could get very emotional and say things she didn’t mean.

Your lizard mind might think she meant it and hid her “true” thoughts from the start.

No, Seriously!

Don’t think she meant it as people all over the world make mistakes when they are emotional.

The worse thing is having 2 sad people or 2 angry people arising from a sad wife.

Dos of Comforting A Sad Wife

• Share Happy Memory or Photo

Humans are more likely to save bad memories than good and happy memories.

It is a survival instinct to remember the bad lessons to survive.

Therefore, make an effort to share a happy moment or photo with her. Let her know she is appreciated for what she had done, no matter how small.

This gratefulness and appreciation make someone feel good.

Just make sure it sounds sincere so that it doesn’t backfire.

• Focus on “We” and Shared ownership

Make your wife feel that you are a team and share the pain together. Whether it was her mistake or other’s mistake, you also own the problem too.

Shared ownership and team make one able to cope with pain better, even in adverse situations. 

Imagine how many films or games started with a hero, having a weakness but also a strong team of people to help them grow. 

• Understand what she wants

This is tough but that is something you need to work on.

Some people love hugs, some people love kisses. Some people don’t like physical intimacy and just want time alone. Some people love small gifts, some find it wasteful. Some people love surprises, some people don’t like surprises in life.

There is no right answer here so you have to figure out your wife. 

If not dealt with correctly, your wife might feel worse and get:-

• Feelings of sadness,
• tearfulness,
• hopelessness
• Changes in appetite (including weight gain or loss)
• Sleep disturbance (sleeping too much or too little)
• Loss of interest or pleasure in normal activities
• Fatigue (even small tasks can require extra time)
• Anxiety or agitation
• Anger outbursts
• Feelings of worthlessness or guilt (including ruminating on past events)
• Trouble thinking, concentrating or making decisions
• Frequent thoughts of death, including suicidal thoughts
• Unexplained physical symptoms 

The above are signs of depression. If you do think she is facing depression, try to seek further help and don’t worry about the social stigma.