It’s always a “honeymoon” period during dating, especially for the first 6 months of the relationship.

I’m not a love guru but I’m here to share with you what types of man/woman you should avoid when dating (we are talking about long term relationship since this person is the one you’ll be marrying to in the future).

There’s man/woman with different personalities and I named it P.O.A (Possessive.Obsessive.Aggresive). Nope, we’re not talking about mathematics now (Principal Of Accounts) but we’re talking about types of personality in a person. 

How To Spot A Person’s True Colors:

• They have few friends and YOU are so-called their “Only Friend”. 
• Their friends will never say a good thing about them.
• Their attitude towards you and how they treat others will be different. (Will treat you good and treat others bad because you are their boyfriend/girlfriend).

Let’s all start with the bad experience I had with different men I’ve dated over the years. Of course, I’ve also met good ones in my life, not all are bad. 

First Relationship with Yoong

Start with this guy whom I met when I was 18. I was just an innocent teenager back then and know nothing about a relationship. All I know is that I want a good boyfriend and an everlasting relationship. I’ll name this guy as Yoong. Yoong was a year younger than me and we started pretty well during the first 3 months of the relationship. He was caring, sweet (ONLY TOWARDS ME), and funny. 

That 3 month was memorable until the 4th month onwards, everything became hell. Yoong showed his true colors.

Earlier on I mentioned that he was sweet only towards me and what I meant by that was whenever he got me little gifts like pastries or anything edible, he only got it ONE. Nothing more than one. He’s very stingy and he did not even think of getting three more of it so I can give to my parents and my brother too (If you love your partner, you should love their family too). When we went to lunch for chicken rice, we took away all the ones with meat and left those with bones and chicken blood for me! This wasn’t the worst part yet. The worst part was he expected me to listen and obey whatever he said! Very possessive and scary as well. He would stop me from what I had decided to wear when I’m going on date with him, ordering food for me without asking me what I would like to eat and telling me who I can friend and have to unfriend on my social media! I knew I can’t stand such man either I want to marry someone like this in the future, I initiated a break up with him. I cut off contact with such a man for good. 

Second Relationship with Joos

The second relationship I had was when I was 21 years old. I thought that maybe it’s really time to settle down and hopefully I can meet the right guy at this age. So I met this guy whom I met on social media and he was looking presentable and we clicked the first time we met. Soon we were in a relationship. Let’s named this man Joos.

As usual, the first few months were going smoothly and then something happened. I noticed that Joos was acting weirdly such as kept turning his head back and looking behind if someone was following us. Right on my mind was thinking maybe he’s being protective and just wanted to keep us safe and that’s why he reacted that way, but no.

Joos began to text me every second (until I couldn’t breathe), check on my location where I’m at, and stalked me on social media! I was terrified by him because of how obsessive he was. I couldn’t imagine myself married to such a man in the future and what if one day he implants a tracking device on my phone? No way, that’s way too scary! I knew it myself that I’ve to distance away from this guy and so, I initiated the break up AGAIN. (But for the sake of my happiness, I have to do it, right?) 

Third relationship with Nan

The third relationship happened when I was 23 years old. I met this man on some dating app and we agreed to meet up. He seems like a shy person at first but soon when he got to know me more, he talked a lot. Let’s named this guy Nan. Nan seems different from the previous two guys I had dated before and he was more mature in his thinking and allowed me to have my freedom. 

Six months passed and Nan showed his true colors (Half a year and his true colors was out).

He was mature, yes, but he was very aggressive. He would snatch my phone away from me and read the text from anyone who texted me and flared up for no reason and picked a fight with me. Whenever he’s hungry and the food wasn’t served to him yet, he will then shouted at the food server and it was so embarrassing because eyes were staring at you in the restaurant. He has a serious anger management problem and I always feel that he needs help. Whenever I brought up that he needs help, he will be so furious. ONCE AGAIN, I initiated the breakup. I knew if I were to married to such man in the future, because of his anger management problem, he might put his hands on me and I might get hurt. 

Conclusion

Not just the men, some women are like this too. I do have female friends who are being possessive, obsessive, and aggressive. If you are with someone who has all these three personalities mentioned, you better run for your life! Before you say “I do” to someone, it is really important to check on his/her personality first. Do not rush things. I repeat, DO NOT RUSH THINGS. 

It won’t take too long to spot someone’s true colors especially if you plan to go on a holiday, traveling abroad with him/her, that’s when you get to see their true colors. Because you will be staying together for 24/7. It’s never too late to say “No” to your partner if you do not feel comfortable being together with them. Better to say “No” now then after married, you say “I Regret”. 

The good news is NOT ALL MAN/WOMAN are bad. There are good ones even they have flaws, they are willing to change. The good ones will treat you right and help you become a better person.

Good luck with finding it! 

When you recently get married, you will enjoy the first few days without any problem, and it is called the honeymoon period.

When this period gets over, you will often see husbands might ask this question, why is my wife always angry with her husband?

The wife gets angry even on little mistakes like when kids drop crumbs on the floor, you forget to bring something, and helper missed a spot while cleaning. It makes husbands frustrated.

In this lecture, we will discuss why the wife always angry with her husband and how to solve this issue? 

Three Valid Reasons Why Wife Always Angry With Husband?

As a husband, you never know what challenges your wife is facing. So, these are the three valid reasons that make your wife angry. 

• She Is Exhausted

I have used the word exhausted instead of tired. When she came back from work and starts running after the kids, it makes them angry. She will be dealing with your baby’s diapers and feeding all night. She might be tired of dealing with your naughty baby. She might have asked you to bring some grocery material, and you forget to bring it, then she will get angry. She might have asked the helper to wash hands before and after cooking.

There can be various reasons that we never know why the wife always angry with her husband. 

• Injustice Of Invisible Labor

The wife works really hard to run a family. If your wife does the job as well, then it puts an extra burden on her. She manages office work, groceries, kid’s homework, doctor’s appointments, breastfeeding schedule, birthday, and sometimes cooking as well. This list of work is called invisible labor. Indeed, the division of work in homes is gradually equalizing, but you can’t deny the fact that a wife has more parenting chores. 

Invisible labor is not just about putting pressure on her body. It puts an emotional burden as well. So, along with physical exhaustion, it can be devastating. The sense of unseen work results in anger, and then husbands ask, why wife always angry with her husband? 

• Sometimes Motherhood Brings Powerlessness 

Becoming a mother is a very powerful experience. It has advantages and disadvantages at the same time. Without any doubt, motherhood gives power, but it also takes power at the same time. It empowers you mentally, physically, and spiritually. However, motherhood takes lots of things away from mothers that please them. Her life revolves around the children, and she lost herself in many ways. 

She has no control over her body. Her breasts are no longer belongs to her. She can’t even eat, sleep, and poop when she wants to do. When she sees herself in the mirror, she feels disgusting. After motherhood, every single decision of her is for the well-being of your kids. When she goes for work, she might not have the same power that she has before having kids. She can’t work extra hours because she gets tired quickly. 

When she stays at home, she can’t even take the hot cup of tea. So, a woman is facing lots of challenges; that’s why they show anger. So, to save your relationship, instead of showing them anger back, give them respect, treat them politely, and give them love. 

5 Ways for Dealing with an Angry Wife

As it is mentioned earlier, most of the reasons for getting angry are valid. So, you will have to ask and treat them politely. 

When you are trying to control your angry wife, she might get more aggressive and uncooperative. So, if she is showing anger, be wise, and don’t show anger in return. Let her show her anger, and she will calm down after some time. When you remain calm, she will get calmed quickly. The purpose of neutralizing emotionality is to de-escalate the situation and to calm down things. 

• Be Respectful

When you see your wife in anger, she might be rightly showing it. The best way to deal with anger is to be assertive and show her respect. Try to understand what she wants. When you speak respectfully, you can resolve the matter quickly. When you show such an attitude, it will definitely calm down the nerves of your partner. 

• Communicate, Understand, And Validate

People often show anger because they feel they are not appreciated, not being taken seriously, and not being heard. So, they feel ignored and disappointed. You can calm your partner by listening to them and when they start feeling that they are heard and understood. Try to understand their needs and feelings. 

Try to know the root cause of their anger. It’s not necessarily true to agree with everything. Just try to understand the situation and calm down. When you politely hear and understand, it makes them feel good. So, in this way, you can calm down your partner. 

• Practice Patience

You might have seen anger, but there might be some emotions of fear, sadness, and pain that you can’t see. Anger allows your partner to feel powerful and in control for a short period. But in the long run, anger hurt them badly. So, show respect and be patient, and get things settled politely. It will help both of you feel good. 

• Think Influence, Not Control

You can’t change your partner, so don’t focus on that. Don’t try to control them, instead create an environment that is conducive to cooperation. Try to treat your partner with sweetness, and it will bring them closer to you. You might have heard that “You can catch more flies with honey than vinegar.” When you develop a sense of understanding, it gives them confidence. 

Conclusion

Anger is a natural phenomenon, especially when your wife has lots of responsibilities. Why the wife always angry with her husband? Simply, the work burden forces her to do so, but by following the above strategies, you can calm them down and keep your relationship flourishing. Try to understand each other and give them the respect they deserve. 

There are plenty of theories about how to create a happy relationship. You wouldn’t have to look towards marriage gurus because we have compiled a list of rules for a successful marriage.

One thing should be in your mind that married life isn’t easy. There can’t be anything better than that if you and your partner are on the same page. If you are unable to deal with the pressure of maintaining a perfect marriage, you may end up breaking your relationship. 

12 Rules for a Successful Marriage

These 12 rules can help you to live a happy married life. 

• Forgive

If you want to be in a long term relationship, then try to forgive the mistakes of your partner. It is the main ingredient of a successful marriage. Every human makes mistakes, so does your partner will do. Mistakes of your spouse will upset you from time to time, but if you can forgive them every time, you can strengthen the bond between you. 

• Apologize 

It is one of the most important for a successful life. If you want to strengthen your relationship, apologize to each other. Sometimes you will have to apologize; even you don’t have any mistake. You have to apologize more to save your relationship; otherwise, the ego will destroy your married life. 

• Don’t be afraid to argue

People say that if you want to save your relationship, then don’t argue. However, it’s not true. There will be lots of tensions in this relation. Arguments are part of a relationship, and I believe that arguments strengthen the relationship.

Instead of stonewalling or withdrawing from improving the relationship, you should find constructive ways or the right timing to talk.

Make sure that you are arguing politely. In this way, your partner will feel free to argue with you. Your spouse will let you know when he/she is unhappy, and you can avoid this happening again in the future.  

• Appreciate

When you show appreciation for someone, it means you are happy for them. Showing appreciation for your partner can make them feel good. You can easily make your partner happy once getting used to them.

When you don’t appreciate them, they might feel that you don’t like them to be around you. That’s why showing appreciation is the best rule for a successful marriage. Appreciating your partner will give them a signal that you value and love them. When you show appreciation, it will encourage your partner to follow the same behavior in the future. 

• Be a team

If you want to live a happy life, then you will have to act as a team. Whenever you face difficult times in life, try to face them together. Remove the “I” and “You” as much as you can.

When you act and work in a team, you will be stronger than you are apart. Never try to face difficulties alone as it will create problems for your relationship. Let them know if you are facing some challenges, they would definitely love to help you. When you share a problem, it means you have cut it into half. 

• Respect

It is the golden rule for a successful married life. Give respect and have respect. You can live a happy married life by giving respect to your partner. Do not think you are better than your spouse.

In the worst scenarios, when you are fighting, you still maintain respect for each other. Remain calm when you have differences between you. When you are angry, never pass disrespectful comments. I am sure you will regret them later.

• Express your love daily

The greatest mistake that most humans make is they show hesitance to tell their partners that they love them. Tell your partner how much you love them. Try to do it daily to live a happy life. Never hesitate to express your life. It is a golden rule for a successful married life.  

• Don’t criticize friends or family of your spouse

It is the mistake that most couples commit by disrespecting the parents and friends of their spouses. When you want your partner to respect your parents and family, then do the same. Don’t criticize your spouse for the actions of your in-laws. It will strain your relationship eventually.

• Embrace Change

We had seen lots of couples on the verge of divorce when we asked for the reason; they said he/she is not the same person to whom I married. Over time, everything will be changed, including your hobbies, lifestyles, and bodies.

Your opinion about your partner will also be changed. Nothing stays the same forever. So, as a couple, you will have to adapt to and accept those changes. Embrace the current status of your relationship. Embrace all the changes that take place in your partner and yourself. Growing together can be the key ingredient for a successful married life. 

• Listen

Another mistake that we make is we don’t listen. It can be good to listen when you have common intersects, but try to listen to your partner when something is not interesting for you. In this way, you give importance to them, and they feel happy. You can make a difference by asking them how your day is going. When you listen to them and pay attention, they will never feel lonely and disconnected. So it is another golden rule for a successful married life. 

• Never go to bed in an angry mood

It’s normal to get angry, but try to resolve your matter before going to sleep. You wouldn’t love to be kicked out of the bed and spend the night on the sofa. It can create a separation between you. Communicate things and do this until you feel better. Go to bed when you are relaxed, now you can enjoy a good sleep. 

• Don’t discuss past mistakes

When we are in anger, we bring past mistakes into the discussion. Don’t do that if you want to live a happy married life. Learn and try to compromise. When you know to compromise, only then you can save your relationship. If you have any issues with your partner, discuss it, resolve it, and move forward. Never compare your current relationship with previous ones. 

These are the rules for a successful married life.

Navigating the aftermath of infidelity is a journey that often catches us off guard.

My experience with cheating involved a friend named Cid (redacted) who put his soul and life into his family and child boy, but his wife ended up in an extra-marital affair. Cid’s story taught me that healing is a personal and unique process.

A few years back, Cid found themselves grappling with the harsh reality of the betrayal. The initial shock was palpable, akin to a tidal wave that left Cid feeling overwhelmed and disoriented. The trust he had invested in the marriage was shattered, and moving past the infidelity seemed like an insurmountable task having to explain to immediate family and then extended family.

Cid’s journey began with the acknowledgment and acceptance of the myriad emotions they experienced. There were moments of intense anger, nights of profound sadness, and days when confusion clouded their thoughts. Cid embraced these emotions, recognizing that each feeling was a crucial part of their healing process. This emotional catharsis allowed Cid to gain clarity about their own needs and boundaries.

Seeking support from friends played a crucial role for Cid. Sharing the pain, betrayal, and confusion with someone who offered a non-judgmental ear proved to be cathartic. The support network Cid built became an emotional anchor during the storm. 

1. Allow Yourself to Feel: It’s normal to experience a range of emotions, including anger, sadness, betrayal, and confusion. Give yourself the space to feel and process these emotions.

2. Seek Support: Reach out to friends, family, or a therapist who can provide emotional support and a non-judgmental space for you to express your feelings.

3. Set Boundaries: Decide what boundaries you need for your own emotional well-being. This might involve taking a break from the relationship, establishing new communication guidelines, or even ending the relationship if necessary.

4. Consider Counseling: Both individual and couples counseling can be helpful. A therapist can assist you in navigating your emotions and guide you through the process of healing.

5. Focus on Self-Care: Take care of your physical and mental health. Engage in activities that bring you joy, exercise regularly, eat well, and get enough sleep.

6. Forgive, but Don’t Forget: Forgiveness is a personal process and doesn’t necessarily mean reconciliation. It’s about letting go of resentment for your peace of mind. However, it’s also important to set healthy boundaries to protect yourself from further hurt next time.

7. Reflect on the Relationship: Understand the factors that may have contributed to the infidelity, but avoid blaming yourself. Reflecting on the relationship can help you make informed decisions about its future.

8. Give Yourself Time: Healing takes time, and everyone’s journey is different. Be patient with yourself and avoid rushing the process. Time will also resolve a lot of things.

9. Rebuild Trust: If you decide to stay in the relationship, rebuilding trust is crucial. This involves open communication, transparency, and a commitment from both parties to work on the issues that led to the infidelity.

10. Consider Your Options: Assess whether the relationship is healthy and if it’s worth rebuilding. Sometimes, moving on might be the best option for your well-being.

As Cid navigated the challenging path of healing from betrayal and rebuilding trust in their friendship, they discovered the importance of addressing past wounds to move forward. If you find yourself grappling with similar challenges in your relationship, click for valuable insights on how to stop bringing up the past and cultivate a healthier connection with your partner. The healing journey involves actionable steps, and this resource provides practical advice to help you build a stronger foundation for the future.

Deciding whether to continue the relationship with his wife was a complex decision for Cid.

Assessing Divorce

Amid Cid’s journey to rebuild trust and navigate the complexities of relationships, the prospect of divorce often lingered as a looming threat. If you’ve ever found yourself grappling with the fear of divorce and unsure of how to respond to such a serious consideration, click for practical guidance on navigating challenging divorce threats. 

Nevertheless, after much consideration, Cid and his wife separated.

• Even after separation, it took years as she needed his help to resolve issues with her extra-martial affair (having another extra-martial affair) and housing.
• Both parties also addressed the procedure to manage their relationship with their innocent child boy. It was a challenging road marked by difficult conversations and moments of doubt.

Moving past the infidelity was a gradual process for Cid, marked by small victories and setbacks. It taught them resilience, the importance of setting boundaries, and the necessity of self-care.

While the scars of betrayal may linger, they no longer define Cid. Instead, they became a part of their narrative—a story of strength, growth, and the capacity for healing even in the face of profound pain.

Remember, healing from infidelity is a gradual process, and there’s no one-size-fits-all solution. Take the steps that feel right for you, and don’t hesitate to seek professional help if needed.

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Getting married in a lovely chapel is a dream for many.

There are many chapels that provide great wedding services and these are our best wedding chapels in Las Vegas for your wedding or renewal of vows.

#1. Chapel of the Flowers

#1. Chapel of the Flowers is best for a small and personal wedding with a first class experience. Rating: 4.5 stars from 1131 ratings.

The photographer was good, location is great and prices were clear with options to upgrade if you want. There are no pressure to purchase any specific package, and all the packages were explained.

In fact, you can do everything over the phone, the arrangements, planning and anything that was needed, if you lived in another state and entrust them with the tasks.

The minister had such a calm voice and gave a very lovely ceremony.

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Address: 1717 S Las Vegas Blvd, Las Vegas, NV 89104, United States, Tel Number: +1 702-735-4331

#2. Graceland Wedding Chapel

#2. Graceland Wedding Chapel is best for their simple package and great Elvis experience. Rating: 4.7 stars from 748 ratings.

The basic package came with use of the chapel, officiate, photographer, bouquet and a limo ride. The photos came out really good and the officiate was sincere.

The staff were great and helpful and create a great “Elvis” experience with funny and great singing. 

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Address: 619 S Las Vegas Blvd, Las Vegas, NV 89101, United States, Tel Number: +1 702-382-0091

#3. A Little White Chapel

#3. A Little White Chapel is best for cute and great memory with option for outdoor wedding. Rating: 4.3 stars from 1096 ratings.

The Little White Chapel was very cute and clean with options of outdoor wedding in their gazebo.

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Address: 1301 S Las Vegas Blvd, Las Vegas, NV 89104, United States, Tel Number: +1 702-382-5943

#4. The Little Vegas Chapel

#4. The Little Vegas Chapel is best for fun and sweet Elvis package. Rating: 4.9 stars from 571 ratings.

The Elvis package was well liked for being fun and sweet and easy. The venue was very clean and modern and they made sure we had everything you needed, including taking pictures with the pink Cadillac.

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Address: 1330 S 3rd St, Las Vegas, NV 89104, United States, Tel Number: +1 702-385-5683

#5. Viva Las Vegas Wedding

#5. Viva Las Vegas Wedding is best for vow renewal ceremony . Rating: 4.5 stars from 472 ratings.

Many liked to have a 10 year vow renewal ceremony here. Expect a fun time with helpful staff, insight officiate, limo driver, and Elvis. 

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Address: 1205 S Las Vegas Blvd, Las Vegas, NV 89104, United States, Tel Number: +1 702-384-0771

#6. Shalimar Wedding Chapel

#6. Shalimar Wedding Chapel is best for quaint vow renewal services. Rating: 4.5 stars from 106 ratings.

Shalimar Wedding Chapel is great for a simple, quaint vow renewal services with amazing Elvis for fun too.

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Address: 1401 S Las Vegas Blvd, Las Vegas, NV 89104, United States, Tel Number: +1 702-382-7372 

#7. Chapel of Crystals – Las Vegas

#7. Chapel of Crystals – Las Vegas is best for classic Vegas wedding. Rating: 4.8 stars from 368 ratings.

It will feel a little rushed like a classic Vegas wedding. They will try to accommodate and assure you with what they can like gaving you water and tissue to calm my nerves. 

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Address: 3000 Paradise Rd Suite 164, Las Vegas, NV 89109, United States, Tel Number: +1 702-327-3600

#8. Paradise Wedding Chapel

#8. Paradise Wedding Chapel is best for taking tasteful photos in a simple wedding. Rating: 4.9 stars from 86 ratings.

The décor, furniture are very tasteful and makes for great pics. The staff are professional and helpful for a very small intimate wedding.

The great photos are provided timely and there are no surprise fees. 

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Address: 520 S 6th St, Las Vegas, NV 89101, United States, Tel Number: +1 702-344-0909

#9. The Little Neon Chapel

#9. The Little Neon Chapel is best for a fun wedding. Rating: 4.8 stars from 619 ratings.

The staff are fun and courteous in a great atmosphere.  Their photo package is nice, for such a great price.

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Address: 450 Fremont St #173, Las Vegas, NV 89101, United States, Tel Number: +1 702-418-2994

#10. Lucky Little Wedding Chapel

#10. Lucky Little Wedding Chapel is best for nice chapels and staff. Rating: 4.7 stars from 337 ratings.

The Lucky Little chapel had great prices and nice chapels and staff. The ceremony was so nice and the staff that night was so helpful. Tip is a requirement for your photographer and the minister towards the end. 

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Address: 321 S Casino Center Blvd #110, Las Vegas, NV 89101, United States, Tel Number: +1 702-405-9277

#11. Mon Bel Ami Wedding Chapel

#11. Mon Bel Ami Wedding Chapel is best for a different type of Vegas wedding. Rating: 4.6 stars from 310 ratings.

The ceremony was intimate and perfect for a comfortable and easy wedding. The officiate was great and patient. The chapel was decorated beautifully and  wedding coordinator Carrie was highly rated. 

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Address: 607 S Las Vegas Blvd, Las Vegas, NV 89101, United States, Tel Number: +1 702-388-4445

#12. A Special Memory Wedding Chapel

#12. A Special Memory Wedding Chapel is best for all-in-one package at a fair price. Rating: 4.2 stars from 260 ratings.

The chapel has the all in one package with flowers, limousine, photography, DVD at a fair price. 

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Address: 800 S 4th St, Las Vegas, NV 89101, United States, Tel Number: +1 702-384-2211

#13. Las Vegas Elvis Wedding Chapel

#13. Las Vegas Elvis Wedding Chapel is best for helpful and professional service. Rating: 5 stars from 28 ratings.

They are known for providing fantastic, accommodating, professional, and personal experience. The ceremony can be fun with their great photos to capture the ceremony. 

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Address: 2207 S Las Vegas Blvd, Las Vegas, NV 89104, United States, Tel Number: +1 702-221-5683

#14. Plaza Hotel Wedding Chapel

#14. Plaza Hotel Wedding Chapel is best for personal and great experience. Rating: 4.8 stars from 28 ratings.

Greg and Marina make you feel royalty with awesome photography. They will take care of every little detail and make everything so perfect.

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Address: 1 S Main St, Las Vegas, NV 89101, United States, Tel Number: +1 702-947-0812

#15. Vegas Simple Weddings

#15. Vegas Simple Weddings is best for looking for a simple beautiful wedding. Rating: 4.7 stars from 92 ratings.

This is a beautiful Christian based chapel looking for a simple beautiful wedding at a fair price. The venue is quaint and very clean and nice.

It is simple and to the point we had a beautiful marriage ceremony with beautiful and honest vows.

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Address: 1000 S 3rd St ste c, Las Vegas, NV 89101, United States, Tel Number: +1 702-556-9956

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Finally, the time came when you decide to marry someone, and marriage is really a big deal. Getting married is a serious commitment, and you need to be 100% sure about your decision. Commonly, it is said that you need to marry your best friend or a person you can rely on in difficult times. You need a partner who can stand with you when you are going through the toughest challenges. However, after looking for all the things still, marriages end in divorce. We have to sacrifice our dreams. So, in this article, we will discuss some signs he’s not husband material. 

10 Signs That Will Let You Know He’s Not Husband Material

These signs will let you know that he’s not husband material. 

• He Plays Video Games

Video games can be a fun hobby, but it should be just a hobby instead of an obsession. If you are playing together, then definitely video games can be productive. One thing is for sure; this hobby can’t help you to build your career, or education, and to stay in shape. So, if it’s an obsession, talk to him to quit this, if he’s not willing to do that, then it is a sign he’s not husband material. 

• He Prefers His Bros And Friends

If you are planning a date on the weekend, then think again because he had already made plans with his brothers. Maybe he is just conserving you as a companion. Otherwise, he is living up with his buddies or might be in worse scenario buddies are females. If you are not his first priority and he prefers his brothers and friends, then it is a sign he’s not husband material.

• He Disrespects Women

A woman requires two things after marriage; one is love, and the second is respect. If he is disrespecting women even without knowing them, then he should be taught some serious lessons to respect women. A person who can’t respect women, then how can he respect his future wife? So, it is a sign he’s not husband material.

• He Doesn’t Get Along with Your Family and Friends.

If you don’t want to say goodbye to your close relations permanently, then you can’t be in a relationship with a person who doesn’t value your friends and family. You might want two parties to come forward and discuss the issues. A person who truly loves and cares for you will definitely pay attention to your closest ones.  He will expect you to do the same. If he’s not giving value to your closest ones, then it is a sign he’s not husband material.

• He Can’t Be Right for You If He’s Judgmental. 

There is a strong possibility that you might not have been together long enough to know each other. You can’t say he’s not the right guy. The best thing is to give him some time and see how the relationship goes. On the other hand, if you are with him for quite some time and you didn’t feel comfortable when you are around him, then he is not the right guy for you. If he’s judgmental during the conversation, then it is a sign he’s not husband material. 

• He Hides Something From You

In any serious relationship, you can’t hide anything from your partner. If you feel he is continuously hiding some secrets from you or telling a lie, then there is a major trust issue. You can live a successful married life if you lack trust. Whenever you feel he’s hiding something from you and continuously refusing to answer your questions, then it is a sign he’s not husband material.

• He Lacks Commitment 

He might have a history of short-term or no relationships, and then it is a sign that he lacks commitment. Marriage is all about commitment, and if he’s not willing to answer your questions, then he can’t be in a long term relationship. If he is answering about future plans, then he is not the right guy for you. If you have to persuade him to talk about the same point and he continues to dodge the topic, then it is a sign he’s not husband material.

• You Never Know When He Will Be Changed

It is a reality that you can’t change a person. But if a person who truly loves you wants to change himself for you, then he can do that. If you want him to leave bad habits, such as drugs, jealousy, and smoking, then you will have to wait and see if he’ll change or not? In case you are constantly asking him for change, and he is saying that he will be changed, then change wouldn’t be coming soon. If things are not clear, then it is a sign he’s not husband material. 

• He Can’t Stay Loyal To You.

In any relationship, you need to be loyal to each other. Your marriage can only work if you are loyal to each other. Marriage is not a joke, and if you feel he can’t stay loyal to you, then it is a sign he’s not husband material. 

• He Can’t Make You Laugh.

Laughter is much-needed in any relationship. You want a serious life partner, but you also want him to entertain you. A boring life partner will make your life boring, and you don’t want to live in such a boring life. So, if a person can’t make you laugh, then it is a sign he’s not husband material.

Conclusion

You never want to live with a person who is not the right choice for you. These are the signs that will show you this guy isn’t husband material. Deciding a life partner is a crucial decision because you are going to live your rest of the life with him. So choose a wise, entertaining, loyal, committed, and a respectful person. If he lacks all these qualities, then it is a sign he’s not husband material.  

Ever seen one of those trending social media videos where grandparents still dance with each other, or one pulling a prank on the other that garners the likes of thousands, and the envy of millions?

Play is immensely powerful.

When your inner child feels safe enough to come out to play, something unimaginably beautiful happens. 

Just notice how people react around babies and how most people gravitate towards them, and change their behaviors to suit them. In the presence of someone innocent, open, and vulnerable, everyone else around tends to also follow suit. It creates the perfect atmosphere for strengthening bonds.

There are milestones in every relationship – First, the honeymoon stage where you’re still all polite, then one day you start farting and sharing the bathroom with each other.

The hallmark of how comfortable you are with one another though should be accompanied by positive signs like mutual acceptance and room to be absolutely childish and immature with your partner.

Play Has No Rules

Here’s the wonderful thing about play – It is a safe space void of rules, judgment, or pressures. There are no expectations, no right or wrong, and no desired outcomes. 

It is a space where you can let your guards down, one which encourages joy and laughter to fill the air. What a marvelous time it is! 

Play Feels Good

Having fun simply feels good. Laughter releases endorphins, grounds you in the present, and effectively dilutes the seriousness of reality and everything we adults tend to worry about. At that moment, everything fades away. It’s just you and your partner, immersed in the present, in a shared moment you might end up remembering forever. 

Play Creates Powerful Shared Moments

Shared moments between a couple greatly contribute to the strength or downfall of a relationship, depending on what you both fill your cup of shared moments with – mostly positives or negatives. 

Naturally, the more your bucket is filled with positive memories, the higher your happiness index as a couple gets.

Play Injects Fun into the Mundane

Couples in long-term relationships all know that life together consists of a lot of mundane moments doing practical chores, and sometimes it’s easy to either drift apart or even gets bored of one another if both of you don’t know how to play!

Be open to trying new things throughout. Schedule a weekly date night! That’ll help keep things fresh.

Play Shows You a Different Side of Your Partner

People are complex and dynamic; there’re multiple facets to someone’s personality. 

Similar to how you sometimes might be able to spot defense mechanisms during an argument and learn how to defuse them, the playful version of someone also shows you a different side to them. The more you understand your partner and vice versa, the better and easier communication and doing life together will be.

Play Enhances Connections

Playfulness supports your relationship in fantastic ways – People use playfulness in seduction, in communicating a heavier topic, in teasing their partners about their faults and/or quirks that you couldn’t otherwise bring up without arguing. 

Play encourages togetherness. It’s akin to developing a secret language between couples that enhances bonding – Nicknames, private jokes, even a word you throw out knowing the other will shoot you a death stare. 

Play Makes the Perfect Repair Attempts

Playing has the power to heal emotional wounds. 

Repair attempts are gestures one party or both throw out in the midst of a heated argument, just to introduce a segue to prevent further escalation. It’s a skill every couple already inherently possesses or should learn because all relationships need it. 

While tension’s rising, playfulness can help interrupt the intensity of the moment and downplay the situation to pave the way for reconciliation.

Play Creates Greater Relationship Satisfaction 

Happy couples who remain in love after decades together are usually the ones who have acquired the ability to poke fun and make light of life and tackle issues together as a team. They’re the ones whom when you look over, they’re often laughing together. 

They’re best friends who remind each other of their most embarrassing moments and let their silly goofy selves out frequently. Such couples generally feel greater satisfaction in their relationships.

If play feels unfamiliar to you and/or your partner at the moment, that’s okay! Give yourself permission to be a kid again, and who knows, your boyfriend/girlfriend might slowly be coaxed to also reveal that side of themselves!

If you can achieve that in your relationship, then as the popular saying goes, “If you fight like a married couple, talk like best friends, flirt like first love, protect each other like siblings, it’s meant to be.”

What’re the chances you’d meet or even know an avoidant narcissist, you might think? 

More often than you realize.  

While the large majority of the population is reported to be Secure, Avoidants take up a good estimated 22.2 percent. and remaining are Anxious. 

You might have heard or even read stories people post on forums of experiencing absolute confusion as to why the person they’ve just spent an amazing, highly intimate weekend with, proceeded to ghost them for the next few days or even weeks.

That is classic Avoidant; Fear kicks in for them when someone gets too close, and they run. It’s a constant push and pulls, and it creates a very unstable dynamic.

How It’s Like Dating An Avoidant Narcissist

Assuming the narcissist’s attachment style has not been triggered right at the beginning, you’d likely think you’ve met the perfect person. Where has he/she been your whole life?

Phase 1: Love Bombing

Narcissists are skilled in manipulation and gaslighting, and they specialize in a technique called ‘Love Bombing’; This person enters your life like a whirlwind. He/she is attentive, loving, around all the time, and wants to cater to your every need. They come across as the most supportive person at this time.

Who wouldn’t fall for that? We all crave love and connectedness, and here’s a person lavishing you with an abundance of that!

The honeymoon phase with narcissists will likely give you a higher ‘high’ than any other relationship you’ve been in – Until the roller coaster takes a plunge, and you’re left screaming, shocked at the abrupt change. 

Phase 2: Exerting Control

Now that you’re putty in their hands after having gained your trust and affection, they’ll begin to mold you into their desired partner, likely one without an opinion, one who doesn’t challenge them, for that is way too threatening for their massive egos. 

Narcissists have a rather fragile self-esteem, and they do prefer hiding their insecurities and shame. 

Forget equal partnership where you both learn and grow together. They want a ‘yes’ man or woman, someone who listens and hangs off their every word.

Avoidants are not immune to craving intimacy. However, where Secure people can allow intimacy to take place, Avoidants run once they sense their autonomy might be potentially threatened.

Phase 3: Gaslighting and Possible Abuse 

There are admittedly varying degrees of narcissism, and it might be difficult to detect if you’ve had little experience.

If you are in a relationship with an avoidant narcissist, you might notice in arguments, that the person doesn’t hear you out, and often resorts to accusing you instead of faults, hurling verbal abuse your way, and nothing ever gets resolved calmly, gently nor lovingly. 

You might ask for a call, and get rejected. 

Perhaps mid-way into the conversation, once the person’s attachment style is triggered, the person might block you abruptly on all platforms, even normal calls, and texts. There you are, left completely bewildered, confused, and hurt. 

In more severe cases, it might escalate to physical abuse.

Whatever form of abuse takes place, it is a very serious matter, and should never be taken lightly.

Cycle Repeats

Your partner has probably disappeared for a few days, a week, and suddenly decides to resurface. 

You might still be hurt, confused, and naturally so.

They’d return telling you they’re sorry, that they messed up, or you might never hear an apology from them, but you feel relieved all the same now that they’re back, just to try and help you make sense of the shock you were put through.

The next moment, they’d shower you with gifts, and attention – That’s the love bombing on repeat, and you might forgive them, thinking they can change. (Better question though, is are they willing to?)

Before you know it, months or years have passed, and one day you realize you’ve been stuck in a loop.

If this sounds eerily familiar…

If you think you’re currently in a relationship with an avoidant narcissist, do consider speaking to a trusted confidante, or a therapist, and get the support you need. There is zero shame, for this is indeed a very difficult and emotionally draining situation. It would help to put some time and distance between you and your partner, to allow you the mental capacity to re-evaluate this relationship.

In the event you and your partner agree to work things out, couples therapy is an option. Do remember – Changed behavior is the only apology you can accept. Outline firm boundaries with your partner, and keep them.

However, if you’ve weighed the relationship and arrived at a conclusion to leave, it is my hope these loving reminders will help you in some way:

• There was a ‘you’ before them. Remember that amazing person.  
• If you dare to allow yourself to be vulnerable and fall in love, that same courage to leave a toxic relationship resides within you too.
• Be kind to yourself during the transitioning out phase, as you’ve suffered a lot mentally and emotionally. 
• Surround yourself with a solid support system of friends and family. More importantly, learn to support yourself as well. Get back to hobbies you love doing, things that make you laugh. Have fun with life again!

How to Spot Avoidant Narcissists

Avoidant narcissists tend to think very highly of themselves, believe they’re special and that others may be envious of them, and possess a lack of empathy. They tend to be arrogant and haughty, and they almost crave admiration. They would also likely be the ones who tell you they left most, or all, of their past relationships – and that it’s always the other party’s fault or lack. 

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Siddhartha Gautama. That was the name of the Indian prince born to a chief of a Shakya clan, one whom brahmins had already prophesized 12 years before his birth, that a baby shall arrive, and one day become a universal monarch or great sage.

Buddha spoke of the Four Noble Truths, which in short, discuss:How everyone in life is suffering in some way, Suffering stems from desiresIt is possible to stop suffering and achieve enlightenment

‘The Middle Way’ (avoiding extremes) as a way of life

How do Buddhist teachings then apply to love and relationships?

Buddhist teaching helps you in learning

1. The Importance of Self-Love
2. How Doubt Divides
3. The Art of Letting Go
4. How to find Inner Peace
   

The Importance of Self-Love

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”

While we’re all in search of love, Buddha’s teaching could not be timelier – The reminder to first love yourself.

Everything stems from self – The frequency you operate on will be the energetic information that you’re sending out to the Universe, and the world will respond to you accordingly.

For example, someone who is constantly self-critical deems themselves unworthy, and will always settle for less. They may even be with a partner who puts them down because that reinforces what they believe of themselves to be true, and that feels familiar to the person.

Conversely, someone who has that foundation of self-love shows himself/ herself kindness in the face of failures and is likely to be surrounded by people who vibrate at the same energetic level. The result of that is a loving and supportive tribe that enjoys healthy, happy relationships.

How Doubt Divides

“There is nothing more dreadful than the habit of doubt. Doubt separates people. It is a poison that disintegrates friendships and breaks up pleasant relations. It is a thorn that irritates and hurts; it is a sword that kills.”

What a powerful statement: “A sword that kills.”

How many arguments have we seen, fought because of doubts, or that we’ve failed to give our lovers the benefit of doubt?

In relationships, while not easy to do, assume the best of your spouse. In times of doubt, before accusing the closest person to you of a moral crime they might not have committed, seek to clarify.

That simple act alone might save you a night of crying alone after a heated dispute with your significant other.

The Art of Letting Go

“In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.”

To live in the present is a gift. Yet, it might be one of the greatest gifts mankind often deny themselves – the pleasure of basking in the joy of the now.

When a relationship ends, even if it was toxic and/or unhealthy, grieving is inevitable. Humans are after all blessed with the capacity to feel and feel we must, whether we like it or not. Emotions are great teachers in highlighting what we are meant to learn from the experience.

The beauty is in realizing that we always have free will. Do you choose to examine and learn in order to grow, even if it means admitting fault or taking accountability for things you’ve said or done during the course of the relationship?

Pause, and have the courage to face yourself in the mirror.

Examples: If you were in a relationship where you realized your communication wasn’t the strongest, or maybe you were passive-aggressive sometimes, can that be changed? Or if you noticed that you tend to over-explain yourself, that stems from trauma. Are you able to correctly identify the past trauma, and work to overcome that?

If you’ve learned all that you needed to learn from that experience, breathe, and let go. No good comes out of holding onto an event that has passed, or someone who was never meant to be our soulmate.

Recognize that letting go will come in stages as well, and normalize the fact that healing is never linear. Give yourself permission to be vulnerable, to cry, to process. No one recovers from a wound overnight.

How to find Inner Peace

“Those who are free of resentful thoughts surely find peace.”

Oh, how true this is.

We’ve all possibly been in situations where we’ve either been cheated on before or wronged, lied to, or even had such a bitter fight that anger from both parties starts to poison the partnership.

Before we know it, resentment comes out to greet us, like a snake stealthily slithering through our neuropathways, casting shadows on our hearts where love used to once shine through, threatening to consume us whole.

Nothing good comes from nursing resentment that will inevitably turn into hatred. The only cure to this, Buddha says, is through love. That is the unalterable law.

Love Reigns

“Radiate boundless love towards the entire world – above, below, and across – unhindered, without ill will, without enmity.”

Love is the single most powerful force in this glorious world; it transcends all time and space, distances and universes.

Love is the one and the only thing that turns frowns into smiles, enemies into friends, and introduces healing to trauma.

Love unites us. What a beautiful world we live in, the second we choose to love and be loved.

Alas, love always wins. 

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He is happily married and have 1 child. He went through the pre marriage counseling and found it useful and wished to share to others in their marriages

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You might have often heard these two terms before marriage and after marriage when someone tries to explain changes in him or her before and after marriage.

Both of these terms are different in nature. For example, a man before marriage wouldn’t be called a father, but the same man becomes a father after marriage. Similarly, a young girl wouldn’t be called mother before marriage, but she becomes a mother after marriage.

In this article, we will discuss which life is better before marriage or after marriage? However, it isn’t that easy to answer this question because different people have different opinions. Some would say life before marriage is better than life after marriage, and some are saying the opposite. 

10 Ways Your Life Will Change After Marriage

Without any doubt, marriage is a name of responsibility, and it is a life-changing event. 

• Money Management

The biggest change you will see in yourself is managing finances. After marriage, you are legally bound to someone, so that you will organize your finances differently. You will look at money from a different perspective, and your priorities will be changed after marriage. Now, you are going to live together, and the financial success of your spouse becomes your success, and debts of your spouse become your debts. 

• There will be lots of vulnerable moments

When you start your married life, you will start to discover the strengths and weaknesses of each other. You will start sharing your deepest secrets that you haven’t shared with anyone before. The problem is when we share such things; we are bound to be vulnerable. At some point in time, you will think about whether I have done the right thing or not by sharing my deepest secrets. After marriage, every situation demands you to trust your partner. It wouldn’t be as easy at the start, but things will start working after some time. 

• Responsibilities Will Increase

Married life is all about responsibility. You will find yourself a changed personality. Before marriage, you only think about you, and after marriage, you will have to take care of your spouse and kids. When the responsibilities are shared between two people, you will be relaxed. Responsibilities mean you have to take care of the well-being of your spouse along with materialistic goals. Sometimes you will find yourself under the burden of massive responsibilities, but if you do a good job, then the reward will be excellent. 

So, after the reasons discussed until now, we can say that single life is better than married life. But marriage isn’t a bad thing. If you can manage your resources well, like time, friends, money, and parents, then there is nothing like a marriage. 

• You start to think about your family differently

After marriage, the family of the wife doesn’t matter as the notion of the family will be different after marriage. Now, you will have a new set of parents, uncles, aunts, and cousins. You will have to learn more about your in-laws and their traditions.

After marriage, the dynamics between you and your parents will be shifted. Still, you can seek advice from your parents and in-laws about work and other things. Life can be intimidating when you have to adjust to new relations, but you will have to manage relations. 

• After marriage, the way of discussing the future is changed

Before marriage, when you go for a date, you wouldn’t make realistic plans. As soon as you are engaged or married, you will start to discuss your goals, future plans, and dreams.

You will have to take lots of factors into account while discussing future plans and goals. After marriage, you can discuss future plans without fear of judgment. 

• You Work Harder

When you are married, your successes are shared. Whenever you got a job promotion, your spouse will enjoy the benefit and vice versa.

After marriage, people start to work hard because they know how they had a family to support. After a year or two, they will have kids so they start to manage time more effectively. If both have jobs, both will work hard to live a happy life. 

• You will measure time differently

Before marriage, you might count the number of dates or months when you were together, but after marriage, you start to see things differently. Once you are committed to someone, time starts to speed up. You will notice that days start to turn into months and months into years.

Even though you are committed to your spouse and you know you are going to live together for the next 50 years but start celebrating the little moments. Start celebrating your anniversary and remember the times when you watch your first movie together. So, these are changes that you will see after marriage. 

• You become more introverted and less agreeable 

Studies have shown that during the first and half years of marriage, men become more introverted. As a couple, chances are you both become more introverted. During the first 18 months, both of you are less agreeable. So, these studies reveal that the first year of marriage is the hardest time. 

• Your social life is changed

When you are in a relationship, it wouldn’t be as easy to spend time with your friends as you do before marriage. So, you will find a little bit of time to spend with friends, and it will become precious.

Especially when you are a newly married couple, it wouldn’t be easy to join friends for weekend parties. 

Why Single Life Is Better Than Married Life

There are some reasons why a single life is better than married life. 

• Decision making is easy.
• You wouldn’t exercise more, so the chances of weight flux are higher.
• Stay connected to everyone.
• No more flirting.
• Freedom. 
• No burden of responsibilities.
• More sleep.

So, these are the reasons why your life will change after marriage and why single life is better than married life.